Toxic Relationships

Our lives often times if not all, revolves around relationships. Relationships with family, coworkers, neighbors or romance/intimacy. How do we define what a good relationship is, is really up to you. Some are in relationships in which one lost their persona, their values, their voice they lost themselves all in trying to please, support and what we like to say “love” the other person. Toxic relationships drain us, exhaust us and make us feel like we have no say and what I like to call VOICE! Toxic relationships make us isolate from others mainly our own family, toxic relationships pull us back from accomplishing our goals, toxic relationships make us feel inferior, toxic relationships make us LOSE OURSELVES! We stop doing things we used to love, seeing people we love, and we give up our own happiness all in trying to LOVE! We do a lot and we don’t do much all because we want to please the one we say we LOVE! 


Wouldn’t it be better to be in a relationship where we can be ourselves and our love one says they love it all! A healthy relationship is one that helps you build, helps you progress one that the other person sees you above anyone and anything! Living life being your tru self and feeling genuine happiness is more valuable than anything and anyone! If being in a relationship forces you to be different or change who you truly are than let’s be bold and brave to admit that it is not worth it and be able to put ourselves above it all and move on. This also goes to relationships with family and friends if you are not comfortable or if anyone ever makes you feel as if you can’t be yourself or if they are holding you let’s try to remove them. 
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Energies should intertwine and match but when someone is sucking the energy out of you and leaving you drained than that person should not be that close to you! Letting go, moving on is the hardest part. The best way to be able to move on is when one finds and reaches self-love to the fullest capacity. When you have self-love nothing and no one else will be able to come in your life and make you change or make you different. Self-love is the tool that will most be able to help move on and not only that but also will help attract the right one. 


-ZM